Love is a word that’s totally misunderstood in our society. And it’s not surprising. For decades our media has tried to brainwash us into believing that love is all about fairy tales and “happily ever after!” That it’s about finding the perfect partner, falling in love and having the perfect life!
Nonsense. Love isn’t about falling and breaking your neck. It’s about rising to greater heights, within your own self. It’s about letting go of fear, anger, jealousy, hatred, worry, anxiety and stress. And embracing clarity, vitality, peace, joy and contentment. It’s about relinquishing the suffering of selfish attachment and adopting the freedom of selfless detachment.
Fear or Peace? The Choice is Yours.
Fear is a feeling that arises from selfishness. The moment you think “What about me?” You feel afraid that you’ll miss out. If you think “What will happen to me?” Immediately you’re fearful for your safety. It’s this selfish thinking that causes all your unhappiness.
Peace, on the other hand, arises from selflessness. A selfless person has no attachments or expectations whatsoever. They gracefully move through life, doing what they’re meant to be doing, with clarity and composure.
In the world, you will not find one selfish person who is peaceful and happy. Nor will you find an unselfish person who is fearful and unhappy. A selfless person is fearless — and full of peace, joy and contentment.
Love is Freedom
Rising in love is about maturity and self-sufficiency. It’s about gaining wisdom and detaching from ego and expectations. (Read ‘The Holocaust of Attachment’)
When two mature people are together, as partners, one of the greatest paradoxes takes place: they are together, yet they are alone. They are one, yet they are two. Their oneness does not destroy their individuality. It only enhances it.
They help each other to grow and become free. There is no domination or sense of entitlement. There is no hatred, anger, enmity or jealousy. There is only freedom.
Freedom is the Symbol of Love
Immature people fall in love. They are dependent on each other for their happiness and pleasure in life. In the process they destroy each others’ freedom. They create bondage and make a prison cell for each other to live in heartache and misery.
In extreme contrast, mature people rise in love. They support each other to become free. By gaining higher knowledge and wisdom, they destroy all bondage — ego and expectations. They grow to greater heights within their own self, embracing peace, joy, clarity, vitality and contentment.